Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Happy New Year!!: Believing in My Importance

Happy New Year!!

I hope you had a wonderful New Year's Eve, and are discovering what's possible with this fresh new year.

New Year's resolutions aren't usually something I spend much time considering. Generally, I leave the idea alone, and go on with my day. I've never let myself wonder why I think this way, until recently.

Recently, I've been thinking a lot about the importance of me. It may sound silly, but I'm pretty sure that, deep down, it's what keeps me from doing what I dream. I also think it may be what keeps most people, especially women, from living their dreams.

This quote from The Help, embodies a lot of what I've been thinking about. If you haven't read the book, or seen the movie, I highly recommend it:

You is kind.
You is smart.
You is important.

Important. That's it for me. 

I know that I'm important to my kids, my husband, and my family. Beyond them, is where I constantly doubt my importance, and I have got to cut it out. 

Doubting my importance keeps me from doing a great many things in my life:

Blogging. I have so many ideas and things I want to share with all of you. I often talk myself out of it because there is so much out there. I tell myself not to worry about it, because someone else probably already wrote "that" tutorial, or posted about "that" idea, and on and on. I have to change this. I know that what I have to share is important, and needs to be out there for all of you. There are some tutorials, on the internet, that visually look very lovely, but the info is not good. You all need good technique, and I want to share what I know with you.

Teaching. Teaching is my passion. It's a huge part of who I am. I was an elementary school teacher, before I was married. I started teaching quilting classes, when I was pregnant with my first child, almost 10 years ago. When my second child arrived, and needed heart surgery at a week old, I had to make some very hard decisions about teaching and traveling. My Molly-Girl needed me home with her, which put traveling to teach on the back burner. Now, it's time to get out there again. That negative self-talk about my importance has been sneaking in, though. I see so many wonderful, young teachers, in the sewing/quilting industry, and I start to doubt my place. My mom would say,
"Cristine Cherie, you just stop it!" (she only uses my full name when it's very important). My mom is generally right. I have to just stop questioning my importance, and search out those teaching opportunities. My wonderful friend, Bari J., tells me "If you don't ask, you don't get." She's very wise. I have a couple of teaching proposals that I'll be working on today.

Submitting to Editors. This idea terrifies me, but I want to submit some of my ideas to other blogs and magazines (or maybe a book), so badly. My mom and I wrote a book together, but doing something on my own, triggers those negative thoughts to creep in. Will it be good enough? Will people care? Am I important enough? I need to stop getting in my own way.

When I start changing my self-talk, and tell myself that my ideas are important, that's when I'll start to see a change, in me. Doubting my importance, unfortunately, has been easy. Changing will be harder. This first day of 2014 will be the first day that I start to change how I think of me. I have to do this for myself. When I stop the doubt, it will also benefit my family, my husband, and my children. Those three little babes of mine deserve to see their mama show her importance, because they are important in this world, too. I never want them to doubt themselves.

I am important. 
We are important.
If you find yourself doubting your importance, let's change it together, one thought at a time. I know we can do this, and make our lives richer, and happier.

Thank you for stopping by!
~Cristy





10 comments:

  1. Cristy - Wow that post is like you were reading my mind :) I feel the same and hoping that 2014 will be the year that I start believing in myself too. Wishing you a wonderful 2014.

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  2. Hey Cristy! I think that's fantastic that you want to achieve these goals. I'll be a cheerleader for you: You can do it!! Hip Hip Hooray :-)

    I say this because I've had some of the very same doubts. When I push them aside, it's amazing what I can accomplish. The only one standing in your way is you. You are an amazing quilter and full of great ideas - so keep up the great work and continue to share them with the world!

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  3. Pass the Kleenex, I'm having a moment. This post really hit home today regarding self worth, something that is often a loosing battle for me. Thanks for the awesome post.
    Happy New Year.
    Always, Queenie

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  4. You hit the nail on the head for a lot of us. Thanks for sharing & I look forward to seeing your 2014.

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  5. thanks for the wonderful post. I send you love and will be a cheerleader for you. one thing I know is that we need each other. you go girl.

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  6. I feel the exact same way! I constantly find myself doubting my abilities and if my work is "good enough" to be important. Becoming more confident in myself is one of my biggest goals for this year!

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  7. This Wonderful Life requires TLC and when we (at least for me anyway) take the TIME to ponder, reflect etc.. on what makes me feel whole from the inside out--everyone around gets a much better me to be around! Good lucky on your journey and I hope we all find the Best In Us!! Here's to Discovery This New Year!

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  8. Cristy, re-read the last sentence in your profile. Now, go do that! If you love teaching you're probably good at it. There are enough of us "out here" who need to be taught! For example, my current project is a chevron HST. I've got questions and I can't find answers! If you do that thing with the boards to baste your quilts, I've got more questions! You can either spend time teaching or spend time worrying...my guess is you're a better teacher than a worrier. :) I look forward to learning from you!

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  9. Yes, yes, yes!!
    And remember, people come to you because they want you. Not some random tutorial. They want yours. Not some random class, your class. Shine and be you.

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  10. Beautiful! Never heard it put it like this, I like it a lot. I will use this when the negativity arises. And I would love to see more technique oriented tutorials! Glad to found your blog throug Bari J.'s instagram.

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